Decisions. We’re faced with them daily. Whether big or small, we have to make decisions that affect our daily outcome, future and quality of life.
While most of us are capable of making small decisions easily and quite effortlessly, life-altering decisions can put you at a stand-still. I have clients who struggle with making decisions for their business because they are just unsure of the outcome. They only think about the decision but take no real action.
Left or right?
Should I or Shouldn’t I?
Take the deal or walk away?
Stay or go?
Now or 3 months from now?
When you are tossing the options around in your head, you make no decision at all. You’ll just be stuck with analysis paralysis.
Depending on the situation, making a decision can be very difficult and frustrating. Through experience, I’ve figured out a decision-making process that works for me and my clients.
It’s a simple process to help you get clarity and confidence while moving forward with a decision. You can easily make better decisions with confidence using two things: pen and paper.
I use this process daily and it has yielded the best results by far of any other way that I went about making decisions.
Because you know, all kinds of things can influence your decision. But the goal is to use sound judgement to determine your best outcome.
When I decided to change up and move my Women’s Success Conference from the mid-west to Florida, I used the following steps. Let’s walk through the process together so you can see by example how liberating and easy this process can be.
1. First, identify what kind of decision needs to be made. In my case it was about making over my conference and moving it to another location.
2. Next, write the question in your journal. Decisions will always seem elusive until you get them on paper. People try making big decisions in their head and it’s very stressful, confusing and overwhelming. It’s like a never-ending wheel of possibilities when you keep big decisions in your mind. Put it on paper and sort it out.
So I wrote in my journal, “Should I change from a general women’s conference to a business conference?”
And Question #2: “Should I move my conference to Florida?”
By writing it down you gain clarity and control over your thoughts and can make a better decision.
This process I use to make decisions have caused me to increase my life, my family and money. The key to prosperity is making great decisions.
Just this step alone relieves the weight of decision making. Now you can see where you’re heading and can do something about it.
3. Now it’s time to evaluate the pros and cons of the situation. List all of the benefits of making the decisions. Then list all of the cons, problems, concerns that may come from making that decision. Make the list freely without holding back.
This process puts all your concerns in front of you so that you can objectively decide your next move.
In moving my conference, the benefits included connecting more with my target audience. And one of the cons, was with a narrower audience focus, I knew my attendance would be lower that first year.
Also, I had the conference in the same city for 10 years, moving it to the south, I wasn’t sure if people would follow. Yet, the benefit of the move was warmer weather, beautiful surroundings, more activities to partake in.
4. Now that the pros and cons list is made, it’s time to analyze the validity of your feelings around the decision. Basically, take a deeper look at the cons and consider the major points that make you uneasy about the decision.
Are you feeling funny because it is something new?
Feeling deterred because of it requires extra work?
Are you uneasy because there is some part you need more information on to be comfortable?
Sometimes it’s hard to make a decision because it requires you to do something that you’re not willing to do. But you can’t allow your unwillingness to stop you from making a great decision.
Two very important steps to evaluation is checking your motives and your mission.
Motives. You have to make sure that you’re making a sound decision with objectivity, not emotionally.
Don’t make decisions when you’re upset, lonely, hurt, feeling shame, etc. This is grounds for impulsive and usually detrimental decision making. You’ll surely regret it once it’s done.
I had a client get so upset with a bank and immediately closed his accounts. That emotional decision resulted in his income being tied up for weeks. He had direct deposits, auto charges and more attached to that account and it was a mess trying to figure it all out after he made that decision.
Next check your mission. Determine if this decision will positively or negatively affect your overall mission. This is how you stay on track with your life goals.
Allow the mission to override your motives when necessary.
For my conference, my motives and mission were aligned and all signs were telling me that it would be a great decision to move the event.
5. Be guided by your intuition. Pray over your decision. Give it to God. Open your spirit to receive divine guidance. Listen within and get still. Look for hunches and for synchronicity to validate your decision. Sometimes answers come in a form of a conversation, while reading or as you go about your day. Look for answers, look for the divine confirmation because it will come. It often comes right to your gut and you’ll know when it hits.
6. Let peace rule. When the answer is right, there will be peace that accompanies it. Learn to rest in that peace and move forward with the decision.Be careful not to confuse a little anxiousness about embarking on something new as a sign not to move forward.
Sometimes I’ve had anxiety about the leap I was about to take, but peace about actually taking the leap.
I know that moving my conference, marketing to a new audience, changing my entire system was a BIG CHANGE. Yet, I also knew in my heart that it was the right thing to do.
It’s natural to have anxiousness as you enter new territory. Don’t mistake the butterflies with a lack of peace. There’s a distinct feeling between not doing something or just feeling a little anxious about taking action.
Good decisions start with paper and ends with paper.
Go through the process on paper. Once you have a peace about the choice you’ve made, write it down in present tense so that you know and solidify your decision.
By using this process, I’ve been able to navigate my life and cause an increase in my income and opportunities for my family.
Have you ever felt uneasy about a decision that you needed to make, but decided to just take the leap and go for it anyway, and then come out on the other side with a story of victory? If so I’d love to hear about it! Share and comment below about how you made your decision and why you felt it was the best decision you ever made!