Starting a business is so exciting. Especially when you’re embarking on a big dream and it brings about a sense of empowerment, freedom, great expectation and so much more. You just want to shout it from the mountain tops, “I’m my own boss!” and hope that everyone would share the same sentiment with you. But that doesn’t always happen. Sometimes the people closest to you just don’t get it. They see you’re new adventure as too risky and anticipate your failure. They may be holding on to a memory of you, the girl who always starts something big and never finishes, the man who dreams big but doesn’t execute, they may remember your first failed business venture or even your last…so they are not that gung ho for you right now.
It’s okay. Trust me.
Just remember that your dream is YOURS not everyone elses. And even though they can’t see your success, it does not mean success isn’t in your future. It just means you’ll have to show them better than you can tell them.
When I started the Women’s Success Conference, there was no other women’s conference like it and I had a few skeptics. The paradigm was that women should focus on being mothers and wives and community volunteers. But I had a vision of helping women not just be a volunteer but a community leader, business owners as well as great wives and mothers. I wanted to build a tribe of women who wanted to dream big and achieve big. So I launched my conference disregarding the skeptics and it has been successful ever since.
You don’t need permission to go after your dream. You just have to take a leap of faith and see what happens.
Here are a few tips on moving forward with your plan even when you don’t have the support you desire.
1. Know your why. It’s important for you to be clearly aware of why you want to start a business and what this will mean for you. You’re “why” is the motivation behind your entrepreneurial efforts. It will keep you going when times are tough and motivate you to more when you have momentum. What impact do you desire to make in your industry, who do you want to impact, why is it important? You should be able to clearly answer these questions in your journal and later explain it to anyone.
Sometimes well-meaning people can’t get with your vision simply because they don’t understand where you’re coming from. Being able to clearly explain your vision and goals can open others up to the idea of your success.
2. Find a tribe of people who get you. Entrepreneurs are cut from a different cloth. They often feel like there’s more to life than a typical 9 to 5. They usually have a ton of ideas and a big vision they want to accomplish. Visionaries often thrive around other visionaries. This is why joining a coaching program or a mastermind is beneficial to your entrepreneurial success. You should connect with others who are going through a similar experience or have already done it and teach you how to successfully navigate your own journey.
Our Success Mastery family meets in person 3 times a year to celebrate, collaborate and rejuvenate as business owners. This is in addition to our monthly calls where we’re staying accountable on building businesses. This kind of environment empowers business owners to accelerate way beyond the average person who goes at it alone. Even with your whole support system rallying around you, you’d still need a tribe of business owners and a business mentor that can actually relate to what you are doing and where you are going.
3. Just do it. Don’t allow the objections of friends and family to become a barrier to your productivity. You have to get on with the business, so turn your attention to product creation and marketing. Don’t spend too much extra time trying to convince others that you can do it…just do it!
4. Limit your conversations of your day to day actions with others who disagree with your decisions. It’s idealistic to believe that if you keep sharing your small wins that they will eventually come around. This usually backfires and the person will continue to discourage you or their lack of enthusiasm can kill your joy. Instead just connect with people who get you. Find a purpose partner, another business owner who you can bounce your wins and actions off of without judgement.
5. Guard your heart and business from the wolves. Once you’ve found your tribe of other business owners, you will still have to look out for the wolves in sheep’s clothing‑the people that are insiders like you but often complain about the program or system. They often say they’re “keeping it real” but they are really just a big distraction from your success goals. Don’t allow their lack of productivity and dissatisfaction shape your views on a program that you’ve invested in, that you’re excited about and is helping you to reach your goals. When you encounter this person, keep it moving! They are energy suckers and dream stealers.
6. Keep a journal of your entrepreneur journey. We all go through seasons when it seems like no one understands. Use your journal to express your thoughts and ideas about your business. Dream, plan and sort it all out on paper. I often have brain dump sessions where I write down every nagging thought that comes to me. I practice free flow writing to clear my head and heart. Once it’s all out, I go back and sort through what I’ve written. I delegate what I can and make action plans for the rest or just leave some things right on the paper…no action needed. You will feel so refreshed with clarity of thought and mind when you practice daily journaling.
7. Shape your perspective with good books. Read to improve your thinking and increase your learning. You’re in a season of investing in learning. You’ll need this in order to build a successful business. Good books are a big key to your success. I suggest reading Enjoy Life and Success Attraction Notes and Quotes for creative thinking. You can also read Think and Grow Rich, a great foundational book for success in life and business.
8. Be grateful. Write a daily gratitude list in your journal of what you’ve accomplished so far. Gratitude opens the door for more success in your life and business. It will also keep you encouraged and focused on what really matters. It’s easy to fall into the trap of focusing on what you’re missing instead of what you have. Your daily gratitude list will keep you grounded, grateful and present about all the good in your life, which will enable you to attract more good to you.
When you turn your attention to achieving your goals instead of trying to convince others of what you can do, you will be more fulfilled and happy with your entrepreneurial journey.
Always remember, great inventions and ideas were all considered impossible before they became a reality. Keep reaching for the stars and go after your dream!