If you’re a married business owner, then you may agree that building a business and building a great marriage both takes a lot of work! And life doesn’t allow separate but equal amount of time to get it done. You have to find a way to blend your personal and professional life to make one big happy life full of love, longevity and happiness.
Next month, I’ll be celebrating my 26th wedding anniversary with my wonderful husband James. He’s a visionary, master strategist and a strong leader. I’m the dream driver, master planner and ultimate executor. Together we’ve learned to be the best of friends, lovers, business partner and business advisor.
When we got together, I was running my own salon and boutique. I loved what I was doing and my business was thriving. My husband also had his own thing going on and wanted me to join him in building his vision. He promised me that I would be able to do what I love as well. So together we crafted a plan that allowed me to help him full time and do my businesses on the side. Eventually, after years of success, he encouraged me to run my own business full time. That’s when everything shifted for me and things took off very quickly.
My husband has always been my biggest supporter and most valued confidant. Through the years we’ve learned how to complement each others strengths and weaknesses to build a happy successful business and marriage.
As I prepare for our upcoming annual marriage retreat, I felt inclined to share with you a few key points that have worked for us over the years. For the nitty gritty details, you can join us at the Happy Marriage Retreat in Ft. Lauderdale, FL Feb 23-25, 2017.
1. Communicate Often. In our early years, when we were both super busy and our days led us in different directions, we designated a day for dreaming, planning and just talking to each other. I was often busy as the office manager and managing the children. He was often busy at the office or in meetings and traveling. So, our time together was very purposeful. We spent time discussing our dreams, vision and goals. It helped us to stay on the same page and be supportive of one another. Our secret sauce: “no negative talk”. There’s a time and a place for everything. But this time was dedicated to building our lives and livelihood.
2. Respect The Gift. We are not the same person. We are two people who’ve come together with a common goal. It shouldn’t be expected that one morphs into the other to make it happen. My husband has always been good at celebrating my gifts, skills and talents and finding ways for me to not only express myself but hone my skills in the process. I respect his position and vision and I push him to be his best all the time. We never thought it necessary to lay down our individuality to help one or the other achieve success. I’m a techy person that’s always hunting and gathering information, developing new products and creating systems. My husband is a thinker…a strategist that loves to talk through his ideas and plans. Our processes may be different but our end results are always dynamic.
Respecting each other’s individuality is the silver lining to getting along while building our life together. Having the freedom to be ourselves has empowered our relationship and strengthened our bond. This makes building a business and marriage that much more fun and exciting.
3. Never Give Up. When the going gets tough…stay put! Never give up on each other or their dreams. Sometimes it’s easy to throw in the towel, when it’s not your big dream at stake…but it’s important as a partner that you let your spouse know that you’re in it to win it with them. They need your vote of confidence, assurance and support. So, offer a helping hand when you can, give encouraging words, take an interest in what they are doing. Listen to their stories and give good feedback. Find ways to make their load a little lighter. One thing that I’ve always done for my husband is take his vision and execute a plan for him. I rally the team, give the assignment, handle the follow up and make sure it all goes off without a hitch. He knows that he can count on me, and I can always count on him.
Now we have the pleasure of spending the majority of our time together, doing business and living our lives. We’re still learning and growing and have developed many dynamic secrets to a happy marriage and successful business.
We’ll be going into the details, addressing the fabric of a successful relationship for entrepreneurs at the Happy Marriage Retreat. We hope to have you with us at that time. Join us by registering here: TheHappyMarriageRetreat.com